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We grow up to make choices in our lives. Well, most of us do. We would always feel afraid that we’ll end up making wrong choices. But if we never made that wrong choice, we would never learn to grow up and appreciate isn’t it? Those who are able to make ur own choices be it wrong or right, please thank God that u have the chance to make YOUR OWN CHOICES.

Please note that this post is not against anyone at all. It’s just simply my thoughts.

So u thought by arranging and choosing the path for your kid meant protecting him/her and u think that they will be happy. Have u ever thought that’s just how YOU THINK? Have u ever thought how THEY THINK? Have u ever sit down and think, are they happy with the decisions you made? Which is more important? Them being happy to do whatever they’re happy with to broaden their knowledge, experiences and mind? Or… YOU being happy having them listening to u like a dog.

So by having them staying in the house all the time meant they’re being good? Having them to be home by 11pm only you consider them as good girl/boy even they’re already above 21 year old?

21 year old, the age to the key of freedom. Unfortunately, some of them do not have that luxury. Yes. I call it luxury.

Why?

Because u finally get to experience things that u have always been curious about. Going out with friends, hanging out, enjoying friends company, finally experiencing what is it like being in a club legally(yea. Don’t lie, u definitely sneaked in when u’re 16 or 18!)… the feeling of being legally adult and the experiences being an adult… priceless. Isn’t that luxurious?

So, now that she/he has turned 21… and you still lock them in the house like a bird locked in a cage. Is it fair? Do u remember when u turned 21? How does it feel like? Yes. U’ve been there. Done that. Printed on the T-shirt too. And u think u’ve seen the ugly side so u wanna protect your loved ones from the ugly world? But, is that really how u want them to learn how to be mature and independent?

I’m 23y/o. Going to be 24y/o in Dec. No. I’m not the unlucky one who got locked up with no freedom. I have freedom. Lots of it. It’s unlimited.

I’m actually witnessing a really unreasonable way of handling a kid. No… scratch that. A young adult. 23y/o in Sept.

I have freedom ever since I was 16y/o I fought for it. I used to be like her. Being locked at home. No keys. Even if I hang out at my friends place, strike 5pm, my grandma will go to my friend’s hse and start yelling out for me. Embarrassing. And eventually, kills my confidence. One day, I was at my other friend’s hse. I want to overnight. Without letting my family know. My mom called up to my friend’s hse and we fought over the phone. We then, set a deal. I shall go wherever I like, whatever time and I will be honest letting her know my whereabouts and always letting her know before I go out.

Tho the confidence issue is still in me, from all the shit from school back then. But one thing is as important as confidence. Independence. Yes. U’ll learn to be independent. U stop depending on family so much. U begin to see the world bit by bit. U begin to learn how to be cautious. At the same time, u’ll start to appreciate your family more as u see the ugly side of the society.

Honestly, I don’t think it’s a bad thing. Well, I didn’t turn bad, did I?

On the other hand, my frend. I don’t know the way I elaborate it is right or wrong.

“I’m 23. I shud have my freedom. Why can’t I do things that I’m happy with? I love my friend’s company. I love hanging out. I love having my own life. Why can’t I have that? Why do I need to follow all that she has to say? Why can’t I be like other adults? Why do I have to lie everytime I wanna go out or stay late?”

“Why can’t I be happy?”

In 23 years of her life, she has her sister to make decisions for her. Controlling her telling her what to do and what not to. She should this, she should that. Every single thing has to go her sister’s way. And often, she keep questioning the above.

Her sister often said that, if she do well in her studies, she’ll get what she want.

I see lots of college students party like mad but still pass with flying colors. When things tend to clog up ur brain, u just wanna go out, do not wanna think about anything, relax and have a drink or two to loosen up. But no. she’s not allowed to. She have to stay home after class. How to think when ur brain is so clogged up? Moreover, she is a graphic design student. Shudn’t they be exploring outside more to get ideas and inspirations?

And so her sister said she’ll get what she want when she finishes her studies. But why after finishes her studies? Where by, she is an young adult. She can arrange time on her own to finish her work and college and at the same time enjoy herself? Why make her life miserable by making her like a bird being locked up? She have to lie in order to stay out late or to go out. Why cant you make her life easier so that she won’t lie? She’s not happy either to lie but she has no choice. She is however an young adult with curiousity to explore the new world that she shud be exploring when she turn 21. but she don’t have that chance…

I don’t blame her for lying. Yes. Lying is wrong. But to control a person, is also wrong. They don’t call it ‘a person’ for nothing. A person is like an individual. An individual has their own way of doing things and own way living her life.

How is she ever gonna be independent when she is always depending on family?

I know I shudn’t be judging people’s family matters. But I just cant help it… sighs… I cant think now. Shud stop typing now. This post is way too long. Yes. I can be really long-winded. And so I’ve said. Hahah… ta~